Losing My Baby Affected My Marriage

When we found out that we were pregnant with Kemi, we were so overjoyed. We just got married earlier in the year. Everything felt so right and we could not have been more happier. My pregnancy was a little complicated due to my blood pressure being so high at times. My doctor diagnosed me with preeclampsia. I had to stop working and stay on bed rest because of my condition. To be honest I was relieved because I was pushing myself everyday. I was home with our son everyday and it was nice. I was able to spend so much time with him before our little girl arrived. After we loss Kemi, things got difficult between us. We were becoming more and more distant from each other. This was the time for us to be comforting each other and we were going separate ways. My husband never loss anyone close to him before. I always thought that I had to be stronger for him. I constantly kept thinking of ways to reach him. Nothing I did could help him even crack a smile. He would not even pray. This was the first time that I ever felt that my marriage could potentially be over. I prayed so hard for our relationship because I really wanted us to get back to a good space. In any relationship, communication is a key factor to making any situation better. Everyday I would be in his space. Eventually we began discussing everything. I realized that we all have a way of processing things. Losing our baby changed us and grieving was very lonely. Sometimes it is hard to be there for someone who is in the situation with you. He felt that he had to be comforting to me but he really did not know how. Little did he know just to be around him made me feel at ease. As time went on, I saw a difference in him. I saw a difference in our relationship. We were dating again. I felt butterflies when we stared at each other. We were in a place where we were able to see why we fell in love in the first place. I thank God for my husband and our marriage. Our union means everything to us. Love never fails.

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